Saturday, April 14, 2007

please help

Dear Francesca,
I am married to my husband for four years now. My mother inlaw is always in the middle, interfering to our relationship as husband and wife.I have deep respect to both, as they are now my family. But I dont want to hurt them. Should a meeting with them helps?

Dear Aida.

Here is a principle I learned. I will use this verse to help you with the problem.Hope this will help you.

If your brother commits a sin,go lay bare his fault between you and him alone.Matt 18:15

Notice that Jesus advised you lay bare his fault between you and him alone.That advice is wise. Some German translation phrase this: present his fault "under four eyes", meaning yours and your brother's. When you kindly bring up a problem in private it is usually easy to resolve. A brother who did or said something offensive or unkind may more readily acknowledge the error to you alone.

If others were listening imperfect human nature might incline him to deny being wrong or try to justify what he did.But as you bring the issue before four eyes,you may find that it is more of misunderstanding rather than a sin or deliberate wrong. Once you both grasp it as a misunderstanding you can settle it, not allowing a trivial issue to grow and poison your relationship. Hence, the principle at Matthew 18:15 can be applied even to minor offenses in daily life.

Dear Francesca,
I read your blog. I want to ask for advice about annulment in Philippines. I am married and my french bf is also married. Is there any chance for me to get an annulment. My husband in Phils said, he would allow me to marry someone, as long as he will not pay any atty and will not go to jail. If I am free to marry, maybe my frenchman will divorce his wife too and we can be together legally. Please help.


Dear Jade:

Solid food belongs to mature people, to those who through use have their persceptive powers trained to distinguish both the right and wrong. Hebrews 5:14

Note that your perceptive powers-your ability to discern right from wrong- are trained "through use". When you must make a decision, guessing,acting on impulse,or simply following the crowd rarely results in a wise choice.
To make wise decisions,you must use your perceptive powers. How?
First of all, by getting all the facts.Proverbs 13:16 says: Every one shrewed will act with knowledge.

Next try to determine which Bible laws or principle bear on the subject.(Proverbs 3:5) To do this, of course one must have a Bible knowledge.That is why Paul encourage us to take solid food- to learn the breadth, length and height and depth of the truth. (Ephesians 3:18)Without Godly principles to guide us,we can decieved ourselves into thinking that something bad is good- simply because our fleshly desires craves it.

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ann said...

Ang dami kasing moral lessons ng mga post mo about your previous marriage kaya hayan may mga dear ate francesca ka na.

Sana in your own special way ay matulungan mo sila. Keep it up.

marie said...

ganda naman ng mga advices mo, bible based pa.good job! you're a great help to our fellow kababayan.

SexyMom said...

one will never go wrong when one bases his/her decisions on God's word. we can only be obedient and discerning.

people come to you for advice because you have always been open with your sharing. good luck, maybe this "Dear Abbey" thing will be your next niche in blogging. you will be able to help a lot.