Sunday, March 26, 2006

Can men and women be "just friends?"

in exchange of Butler stories, I created this blog.

Topic: Can Men and Women Be “Just Friends”?

Can men and women who are not married to each other be friends? That depends on what we mean by the word “friend.” Jesus was a close friend of Mary and Martha of Bethany—both single women. (John 11:1, 5) The apostle Paul was a friend of Priscilla and her husband, Aquila. (Acts 18:2, 3) We can be sure that these individuals shared warm affection. At the same time, we cannot imagine that either Jesus or Paul ever allowed these relationships to drift in the direction of romance.

Modern society thrusts men and women into each other’s worlds more than ever before, and it is becoming increasingly necessary for people of both genders to know how to have appropriate, friendly relationships with each other. Couples too benefit from wholesome friendships with other couples and with single people.

“Distinguishing between romantic, sexual and friendly feelings, however, can be exceedingly difficult,” cautions Psychology Today magazine. “The reality that sexual attraction could suddenly enter the equation of a cross-sex friendship uninvited is always lurking in the background. A simple, platonic hug could instantaneously take on a more amorous meaning.”

For married couples, being realistic and practical is especially important. “All forms of intimacy with others can threaten a marriage,” writes author Dennis Prager in his book Happiness Is a Serious Problem. “It is not sex alone that makes for an intimate relationship, and your spouse has the right to expect to be your one truly intimate friend of the opposite sex.” Jesus pointed out that maintaining moral chastity is a matter of the heart. (Matthew 5:28) Therefore, be friendly, but guard your heart and scrupulously avoid situations that could lead to improper thoughts, feelings, or actions toward anyone of the opposite sex.

how to make real friends

Topic: How to make real friends?

We All Need Friends
“A friend is someone you can talk to freely about anything, someone you can call any time of the day.” —Yaël, France

“A friend understands when you’re hurt and feels the same things inside that you do.” —Gaëlle, France

“THERE exists a friend sticking closer than a brother.” (Proverbs 18:24)

To Have a Friend, Be a Friend
Show Respect for Others
Do Not Demand Perfection
Loyal Friends Through Thick and Thin

it is hard to find a true friend:

how to make real friends

Thursday, March 09, 2006

your marriage can be saved

This topic is very upbuilding to those who have marital problems.
Hope you find it refreshing and upbuilding too.

Is joy and ecstacy lacking in your marriage? Has pain and disappointment overshadowed the intimacy and joy that once characterized your relationship? Even if your marriage has been in a loveless state for many years, what was lost can be found. Of course, you have to be realistic. No imperfect man and woman are able to achieve a perfect marriage. Nevertheless, there are steps that you can take to reverse negative trends.
Read more:

Your marriage can be saved

Meng, this POST is for you. You did save your marriage. Congratulations! Speak to you soon.

Getting married?

Are You Thinking About MARRIAGE?

If we compare the global divorce phenomenon to an earthquake, the United States would be at the epicenter. In a recent year, more than one million marriages were terminated there—an average of two every minute. But you may well be aware that the United States is hardly alone in its marital misery.

ACCORDING to one study, the divorce rates in Canada, England and Wales, France, Greece, and the Netherlands have more than doubled since 1970.

We have every reason to believe that most couples enter wedlock because they love each other and want to spend the rest of their lives together. Sadly, however, the dream of a happy marriage often proves to be just that—a dream. Upon waking up to reality, many have said that they married too soon or married the wrong person or both.

Why do so many marriages fail? "The main reason is a lack of preparation," says the author of a book about courtship. She adds: "As I deal with couples in the throes of marital distress two feelings engulf me—compassion and anger. I feel compassion because they have not discovered their dreams for a mutually satisfying relationship. I feel anger because of their ignorance regarding the complexity of the task."

Indeed, many enter marriage with little or no idea of how to make it succeed. Yet, this is hardly surprising. One educator observed: "How many of our youth go through college studying about the behavior of rats and lizards, but fail to learn about the behavior of two people called husband and wife?"

Are you thinking about marriage—either about a possible future marriage or about that marriage you are in now? If so, you should be aware that a real-life relationship is far different from that depicted in movies, on television shows, and in romance novels. At the same time, the marriage of two mature people who are truly in love may be considered a blessing from God. (Proverbs 18:22; 19:14) How, then, can you be sure that you are prepared to meet the demands of marriage? What factors should you consider in selecting a mate? Or if you are already married, how can you increase the likelihood of finding lasting happiness in your marriage? The next article in this series answers these important questions.

Succees in marriage, possible?

Why marriages fail?Here are the reasons:

Money: "One might imagine that budgeting would help unite a couple through the necessity of working together, pooling their resources for the basics of living, and enjoying the fruits of their labors. But here, too, what could bond a couple in a joint venture often serves to separate them."—Dr. Aaron T. Beck.

Parenthood: "We've found that 67 percent of couples experience a significant drop in marital contentment after their first child is born, and there is eight times more conflict. This is partly because parents are tired and don't have a lot of time for themselves."—Dr. John Gottman.

Deceit: "Infidelity usually involves deceit, and deceit, pure and simple, is a betrayal of trust. With trust identified as a crucial component in all successful long-term marriages, is it any wonder that deceit can wreak havoc on a marital relationship?"—Dr. Nina S. Fields.

Sex: "By the time people file for divorce, sexual deprivation of many years' standing is shockingly common. In some cases the sexual relationship was never established, and in others, sex was mechanical, merely a vent for one partner's physical needs."—Judith S. Wallerstein, clinical psychologist.

My marriage with Michel is strong as ever. See the principles applied in: Ecclestiastes 4:9-12
what consists a threefold cord? Do you know?

Sunday, March 05, 2006

Betrayal , what to do?

Have you been betrayed by husband or wife? How does it feel?
This topic is in line also with the blog post of Marie

A sad experience explains:

"When there is infidelity, "then a flood of confusing emotions rain down." The sense of devastation is difficult enough for victims to comprehend—let alone outsiders, who have little grasp of the situation. "No one," claims Pat, "really understands how I feel. When I think about my husband being with her, I feel a real physical pain, an ache that is impossible to explain to anyone." She adds: "There are times that I think I'm going crazy. One day I feel so in control; the next day I don't. One day I miss him; the next day I remember all the scheming and lying and humiliation."

I, your Lola was in that situation before. The first infidelity of my first husband took 5 years for me to understand and swallow. I blame myself for not taking care of him, even though I know I didnt lack of care towards him. Then I survived the pain. You will too, if you are in the same situation.

please read the whole context of the link, it helps us all cope the pain.

Infidelity, its tragic effects


Topic:Jehovah's Witnesses?

Yes, that is the way we refer to ourselves. It is a descriptive name, indicating that they bear witness concerning Jehovah, his Godship, and his purposes. "God," "Lord," and "Creator"—like "President," "King," and "General"—are titles and may be applied to several different personages. But "Jehovah" is a personal name and refers to the almighty God and Creator of the universe. This is shown at Psalm 83:18, according to the King James version of the Bible: "That men may know that thou, whose name alone is JEHOVAH, art the most high over all the earth."
God's personal name in ancient Hebrew

The name Jehovah (or Yahweh, as the Roman Catholic Jerusalem Bible and some scholars prefer) appears almost 7,000 times in the original Hebrew Scriptures. Most Bibles do not show it as such but substitute "God" or "Lord" for it. However, even in these Bibles, a person can usually tell where the original Hebrew text uses Jehovah because in those places the substituted words are written in large and small capitals, thus: GOD, LORD. Several modern translations do use either the name Jehovah or the name Yahweh. Hence, the New World Translation reads at Isaiah 42:8, "I am Jehovah. That is my name."

Sunday, instead of staying at home, in front of my PC, Michel and I will drive to ST Maurice, to join some french to do some house calls.

Oh, yeah, part of our activities, giving people some "spiritual" food.

Your Lola had change. Got to work for God.

Latest news, we found an interested filipina, working in Nice and she got a beautiful baby girl. I will ask thier photo on our next visit.

Michel is calling, got to go. Have a nice weekend for all.

Friday, March 03, 2006

Photos and About Us

Me and my friend Cel, with others in Paris.

Michel, my husband, me and Narda,-4° cold brrr...
Paris is always colder than Nice...

Michel with a French brother, both are learning Tagalog.

Jenny and me ,still in bronze sunsburned
due to Gran Canaria trip,
Im so pangeet...

Do you notice, we are all in decent attire?
Ladies in skirts, Men in suits.
Our trademark: Always Presentable.Eh dapat lang, we are representing God.We visited Eiffel tower after, but foggy weather.Cant have some photos taken.(Sad)

All photos were taken last Feb. 26,2006 Dreux,Paris. We , 16 of us from Nice,took Air France,to Paris ,to attend our Tagalog Language Assembly with some french brothers and sisters, who were learning the Tagalog language.

Sikat ang Pinoy,we are around 500 attendees(Witnesses and students, Tagalog Session) and more than 1000, in French Session, just in the area of Dreux,Paris. Some of the filipinos came from Germany and Austria.Welcome by the French tayo, kasi warm people daw tayo.

In France, 60million of the population, there are , 119,131 Witnesses, includes 2,318 baptized, year 2005.
In Italy, 58million population,234,795 witnesses, 4,802 were baptized year 2005.
In Philippines,85 million population, 146,613 Witnesses,6,719 baptized year 2005.

In 235 countries, there are 6,613,829 Witnesses as per 2005 Jehovah's Witnesses World Report.

We are sure that you have some questions about Jehovah's Witnesses and their beliefs. Perhaps some issues are controversial in nature. Michel and I would be glad to answer your questions.Email us.

Here are some examples of questions frequently asked about us.
I put it here for your easy research what we do, what we believe.

Why do the Witnesses call on people who have their own religion?

In doing this they follow Jesus' example. He went to the Jews. The Jews had their own religion, but in many ways it had turned away from the Word of God. (Matthew 15:1-9) All nations have religions of some kind, whether so-called Christian or non-Christian. It is vitally important for people to hold beliefs that conform to God's own Word, and the efforts of the Witnesses to assist them in doing this constitute a showing of neighbor love.

Do the Witnesses believe that their religion is the only right one?

Anyone who is serious about his religion should think that it is the right one. Otherwise, why would he or she be involved in it?

Do they believe that they are the only ones who will be saved?

No. Millions that have lived in centuries past and who were not Jehovah's Witnesses will come back in a resurrection and have an opportunity for life.

Find more on this link:

Questions about the Witnesses

Do you have questions too? We appreciate it, post comment or email us.

Thursday, March 02, 2006

Church Donations

Giving donations to the Chuch, is it offensive ?
Read(by clicking the two links) the answers

Giving Until it Hurts

Giving that Brings Joy

Source: The Watchtower Library

Protect Yourself from Fraud

Do you know about pyramid and jpmorgan scams (in phils?) Here is a topic to protect you from them, or any other scams that will come your way.

Read more:
How to protec yourself from fraud

Source: The Watchtower Library.